You think as adults, we know better… but it still happens unfortunately. I’ve been MIA for a few weeks because I was a victim of adult bullying and I needed to take time for myself to reflect and do a little self care and self discovery for myself. It’s very easy to just play the victim card and for it to make it seem like I want everyone to pity me… but I think I was just more angry at the situation. Like why? Why as adults does it happen to us. It’s easy looking onto the situation as someone who views it from an outside perspective and easy to give advice when you’re not the one reaping the consequences of it all. But when you go through it, it kinda just makes you pause a bit… kind of like when you’re in shock.
What is bullying? There are many different ways in which you can be bullied nowadays. The one we’re most familiar with is physical bullying, which I don’t have to really explain. This was not me. I was not physically bullied. But I know many people go through this so I don’t want to seem like I’m dumbing this category down in anyways. But this is one we’re all too familiar with. Another bullying is verbal. And actually, when I talk about the next following categories, I’m just going to talk about them all together because this is what I was a victim of. Verbal goes with emotional because when someone says something to you or about you, I feel that how you perceive it can really hurt you even longer than the time it took for someone to say it. Another category I can add to this one too is passive-aggressive bullying. This is when they behave appropriately on the surface, but takes you down subtlety… usually with words. Saying it nicely but not really being nice. What I think hurts more is when you think the people are your friends, and they say one thing to your face but then say more words behind your back, how do you even know who to trust anymore. And of course, looking back now, I only feel sorry for these girls because all they have in their lives is drama to talk about to each other. In this generation now, there is a thing called cyber bullying as well! Which I think I was a victim of as well… I can’t even explain to you how a bunch of 30 to 40 year old women are the bullies, but it’s the people you least expect!! I mean, do they want their children to get bullied the way they are bullying others? I believe in karma… and karma will come full circle!
So how do you overcome this bullying? You just have to know that you can control how you perceive things. You can’t control what others think about you. Life is all about how you react to things. For me, I needed to take time reflecting on myself. Whether it be journaling about your feelings as an outlet, talking to someone or just crying it out. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength. Leaning on those TRUE friends helps. And just learning that not everyone is your cup of tea and not everyone will like you. Being true to yourself and admitting that sometimes you just have to let things go if it doesn’t serve you well anymore. It’s funny, because looking back now at these so called “mean girls”, I think they “bully” others because it makes them feel better. There are things in their lives they are not happy about, so in order for them to be happy, they have to bring others down around them. Tho they succeed, in the end, they lose. So don’t let them win! It’s all in the way you react!
Don’t be afraid to cut off any and all negativity just because you’re afraid to lose “friends”. Find comfort in solidarity and develop relationships with people who truly appreciate you for who you are. You’ll see that sometimes, your circle decreases in size, but increases in value.
Don’t let them block your happiness! Do YOU!
Here’s some happiness tips:
- Don’t listen to gossip
- Ignore what people say about you
- Design your own life
- Look for the good in every situation
- Develop an attitude of gratitude
- Laugh more
7 Things that will Block your Happiness:
- Self hatred and Self blame
- Not being able to let go of the past
- Not being able to forgive
- Not being able to cherish who you are
- Needing others to validate you
- Letting other people define who you are
- Trying to be perfect
I hope this touches someone… just know that I am OK! I took the time I needed.. some ME TIME! Self care is something that you don’t need to apologize for… sometimes you just need a break from everyone and everything social media! Remember, if needed, don’t hesitate to seek help and talk to someone! It is not a sign of weakness!
I hope you have a fabulous week!
Remember…. stay true to you!
Peace, Love, and Awesomeness,
Coach MelRan ❤
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