Survive, save and serve. What do I mean by these words? Most people nowadays are just surviving. They have a job and make enough to make it day to day and pay their bills to meet their basic needs. To save, someone is in that state where they have more than just the bare minimum and able to expand their life a bit… for example buy a nice house or go on a nice vacation. Most people will never reach the Serve stage, where it’s making a contribution to the world around you. I know at least for me, that Serve status is my goal!
With the recent suicides of celebrities Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, I felt it struck the world hard because to the world they had everything. But obviously, they had something dark inside them that they couldn’t deal with anymore. If they can lose to depression, does that not give us any hope?? How can we go through life different? How do we become more aware? What can we do for loved ones?
All through the news of their deaths and reading through the opinions of a lot of my friends and acquaintances on social media bringing awareness and sharing the suicide hotline numbers etc… I saw a lot of comments stating they were both weak, leaving behinds their own kids. They were so selfish for not thinking about their kids and just themselves. Harsh… but again… I can’t say they are right or wrong. It’s their opinions. Depression and other mental health diseases are a life long struggle for people. It is REAL. Whether or not they are getting health through a mental health professional and with the use of prescription medications, things happen in life and it’s a constant fight. Anything can happen to anyone. You will have your good days… but there will also be bad days.
I was reading this book called The Go-Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann. I had just finished this book and it hit me! Why did this celebrities and many celebrities even before them, succumb to depression even tho they “had it all”? Well, through this book, a few things I wanted to share caught my eye! So this book is a parable about business and also life. This guy works for a company, a sales guy, and of course his work and income is based on commissions. He wants to learn the secret to success so he seeks this guy, a successful guru who’s legendary apparently. But wants to learn from the best! So he does, he gets an appointment and he agreed to share with him his secrets to success. Only condition he gives him, over the next week, he has to meet with him each day and he will give him one secret a day. After each day, he has to apply that law to his life since you learn more by doing. The secrets that he gets are called the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success. And I’d like to share with you those 5 laws… hopefully you can use it either in your business, work, or every day life! This will only be brief… of course, if you enjoy it and want to read more… grab the book! I finished it in 2 days!
THE LAW OF VALUE
Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.
For some, you might be thinking, how will this help me to make more money? Well if that is your initial focus, then you won’t get too far. You have to change your mindset to a giving mindset. First off, you have to love what you do. You have to love the products that you have to sell. Does your services or products serve people well? If yes, great start! So without even thinking about increasing the prices of your services or products, how can you focus on the value that you are giving to others? For example, me as a health and wellness coach, I want to be able to expand the way I serve people. Which is this blog! This blog can reach many.. and I don’t know who exactly it’s reaching, but the more I pour into it, the more valuable information I share, I know it’ll reach someone! I’m not expecting any compensation from that… but if I am valuable to one person, I feel that is successful! So how can you apply this life in your life today?
THE LAW OF COMPENSATION
Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.
How many people are you helping? How many people do you reach out too? When you are with your clients… or let’s change the scenario… how about when you’re with your family. Are you serving them well? Are you present and being a good parent? Good spouse? Are you doing things because you love it? And are you doing it with passion? You have to give yourself with passion and because you want to, not because you have to. In the book, the main character just started serving coffee to his fellow co workers, asking nothing in return! He felt silly yes just walking around handing coffee to people, some of whom he looked at as competition. But he did it anyways! Will this benefit him later? He doesn’t know… but he served them not expecting anything in return.
THE LAW OF INFLUENCE
Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.
A lot of people in sales, of course they’ve numbers on their mind. They set goals on what quota they want to get and that’s what their focus is in. But one thing a lot of them lack is actually listening to their clients needs. What are your clients needs? And does your service or products serve a solution to their needs? If not, you may have to rethink things a bit. Or if you’re being honest with yourself and you do want to shift to a more “giving” mindset, maybe that client needs to referred to another person or product that can better serve them! That’s what happened in the book. The main character, while he was trying to win this client to become his major client, he knew of a better person that was the more “expert” person to help that client. So he referred that client to someone else. His mind was blown at what he did. He gave up a sale basically… but his conditions were to apply the laws. That day, he applied this Law of Compensation. Will it bite him in the ass? Eventually, he will reap the benefits! You’ll have to read the book to find out 🙂 But now, how can you apply this law in your life today?
THE LAW OF AUTHENTICITY
The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.
Be yourself! You won’t go far trying to be someone else. As long as you’re trying to be someone else, or putting on some act or behavior someone else taught you, you have no possibility of truly reaching people. People want to trust somebody that makes them feel like a somebody. Somebody who truly cares for their wellbeing. Not somebody that just has an agenda for themselves. You can go through all the skills training for the company you’re with, but there is no training to just be yourself.
THE LAW OF RECEPTIVITY
The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.
This I felt that some people won’t ever get too. And this is where I feel is the most important. After all that giving, you have to allow yourself to be open to receiving the good that comes back to you! You have to allow yourself to believe that you can do it and that you’re deserving to be successful. Having big dreams and being curious and believing in yourself are all aspects of being receptive. This is what I think lots of people have to work on for themselves! They can continue to give and give, but they shouldn’t feel bad about receiving as well. This is where self care comes into play and is very important! But just know you are deserving and good things come to those who give!
With these 5 laws that I have shared… which ones speak to you the most? And can you see yourself apply these every day?
If you do, please share your experiences below! Would love to hear what you did!
I hope you had a great Monday and wish you the best for the rest of the week!
Peace, Love and Awesomeness,
Coach MelRan ❤
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